Healing. Why & How.

Written By Jess

I chose to have “Healing” in my business, and here’s how I want it to play out.

Why healing?

  1. It can be recognized that some part of our health is always on the mend. “If it’s not one thing, it’s another…”

  2. When we add intention to healing, the actions are deliberately positive, consistently turning our attention to a part of our life that we’re choosing to grow in.

  3. It softens the self-help space. It feels more careful and caring rather than a lacking mindset. "Im not good enough at…” It’s more there are so many activities to do in life, AND these ones take care of me, they make me better at what I’m responsible for.

How do I know what I know, AND how does a healing mindset play out.

During my time as a health teacher for 9th graders, I’ve been able to watch kids grow through adolescents and have thier parents ask me for advice on what to do. At some point in our life we looked around in the kitchen and asked ourself, “Am I really supposed to do this forever?” Men get a wife, (kinda kidding,) but yes, we’re stukck with always having to cook, AND THEN CLEAN! So here’s the thing, we have personal responsibilities, and then we have household responsibilities, we also have community responsibiltioeis.. and this is adulthood. My advice was to list out ALL of the responsibilities, we have. and it’s a long list, becuase when we care about how our life is going, we actually care about a lot.

Abraham Maslow, American Psychologist presented a model of needs that represents a heiarchy of how to care for all of the things we have to. How these categories stack up against and support behaviors.

Conversation cards as support systems for teenagers to practice engaging in reflection with others.

I build: with the help of others, AKA community, a lot of these needs can be taken care of with systems of support. As kids, these supports are often our parents, if they are healthy and also have access to health care and supports. If not, students, our kids often are deficient in having their needs met.

AND, as we reach(ed) adolescence, we’ve grown into awareness of more responsiblities. keeping track of homework, going to the grocery store, DRIVING! and then we look around in our kitchen and realize no one else is going to do this, unless I ask for help.

This is the healing part: we accept. we accept our fate, that some things won’t go away.

And then we build. What do I have, what can I change about it? It’s usually a mindset. For me, doing the boring, everyday tasks get better with music. I used to get high and do them so that my mind can wander while my body worked. But now that I’m intentionally sober, music does it for me. Also gratitude.

Im grateful I have a house with dishes in it.

Anyway, I told the freshmen moms to make a list of all the things they care for in a day. Go over it with the kids and find a way to share the load. Kids want to be responsible, they just don’t know how (a lot of the time), and need explicit instructions, OR grace when they fail.

Healing as an intentional action is empowering, choosing to get better at something motivates us and our perspective on life. If we were to add the mechanisms on how a thought tells our body what to do, we could call it mind-body activities, and our focus becomes more in the moment, and less mad or sad, but grateful.

actionable items:

  1. have your planner of needs visible for the house. Have it adaptable, and changing every week. build it with the family/roomates/kids.. add fun things to it too.

    1. a free download I have this month is a weekly planner with activity blocks that help varry the tasks, so it’s not all boring.

  2. Go on a Subtronics rabbit hole. learn to love him, and life will be beautiful.

    1. im only kinda kidding. Jesse + Sony = <3

    2. top 3 fave songs of his, chrystallized (ft. inez + John Summit), Itchy Scratchy, because it’s who I am. && the FRACTALS album. but specifically FUNcKED.

  3. Most importantly, Think about your home as a place for healing. Where is your safe space to be. Ironically mine is the kitchen, also this front window seat, i’m basically outside. AND also, outside.

    1. If you’re wanting an update for the function, design, flow, but feel you dont have the motivation for it, CONNECT WITH ME <3 Id love to uplift your space into something peaceful.

with gratitude,

Jess

Forever in Gratitude as a “healing space” pays tribute to the relentless give-and-take that our conscious-homeostatic Self moves through. Choosing gratitude helps to re-align our path, and bring us up into hope, joy and peace, even through moments we have to heal through.

With over a decade of experience teaching 6th-12th grade students in health and fitness, I’ve had the privilege and practice of guiding young minds on their journey through health discovery. I plan on using this space to expand on my passions and skills of teaching self-awareness, build resilience, and encourage the empowered development of mind, body, and soul. Through my years in the classroom, I’ve encountered students from all walks of life and seen firsthand the powerful transformations that come when they tap into their inner strength. I believe that every individual has immense potential waiting to be unlocked, and it’s my mission to provide the tools and support to make that happen.

My goal is to help people see themselves as lifelong learners, capable of adapting, growing, and finding flow. I’m dedicated to providing practical tools, mindfulness strategies, and emotional regulation techniques that allow individuals to find inner peace.

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thank you,

Jess.

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